Have you ever used the excuse, ‘waiting to get my ducks in a row’?

Have you ever used the excuse, ‘waiting to get my ducks in a row’?   Why are we always trying to do this?

I wondered where this saying might have come from, and there appears to be a couple of different ideas…but the one that seemed most logical to me was in regard to bowling.  Pins used to be shorter and resembled a duck, and therefore called ducks.  Before the bowler would throw the ball, he would make sure the ducks were in a row.  Sounds about right.

But bowling pins are objects and will stay where placed until the ball moves them.  How many of us struggle on a daily basis to get our ”ducks in a row”?

Today the meaning has changed to an idea of getting all the details managed and addressed before moving forward.  However,  ducks never stay in a row and life is often unpredictable. If we are constantly waiting for all life’s details to be managed and “in a row,” we will never achieve our dreams.

My mom always said there is no better time than today.  That applies to most things.  Start living today to create the life that you want.  Most of the details that we worry over aren’t really that important but more of road blocks we create:  After I lose weight…. When I get that promotion….. When I have more money……

Let’s not worry about getting all “our ducks in a row” but rather moving forward toward the life we envision for ourselves.

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What I Could Do With The Tools I Was Given

This is a story of a young girl that was given a tool box.  Inside the box were tools of all sorts; capable of performing any job that came her way.  As she examined each tool, she dreamed of all the wonderful things she could create. Then, she came across a tool in the bottom of the box that appeared to be broken.

Inspiration Kimberly BrustSuddenly, she realized her tools were not complete.  Because of the one broken tool, her creations would never come to fruition.  She began to compare her tools to the tools of the other girls.  She noticed that their tools were not broken.  Every time she compared her tools, she came up feeling “not good enough.”

Over time, the girl became depressed and did not open the tool box.  She did not create what she had dreamed of.  How often she noticed how perfect the other girls’ tools were and wondered why she had this broken tool. She felt sad and mad and small.

Finally, a wise women with her box of tools asked the girl why she did not acknowledge her tools and use them.  The girl started on about the broken tool….

For surely, this woman was wise;  she asked the girl to sit with her and look at her tools.  She opened the lid to the box.   The girl noticed that the tools on the top were worn and must be well used.  “You must of created beautiful things with these tools. I can see how much you have used them.”  They continued through the box and found shiny tools that were never used.  The woman told her, “I was given these tools, but I never really needed them for my endeavors. I felt that I could really create beautiful things, if I became a master of just a few of the tools.”

Then, at the very bottom of the box there sat a tool that was obviously broken.  “What about this one?” the girl asked.  The wise woman said, “I always knew it was there, but I learned to improvise and discover ways to to do things that did not require that tool.  Eventually, I forgot it was even there.  I never let a broken tool deter me from creating something beautiful.  My focus was always on what I could do with the tools I was given.”

The girl thanked the woman for sharing her tool box and words of wisdom.  Then she went to her tool box, opened it…as if it were the first time…and allowed herself to dream about all the beautiful things she could create.  She took the broken tool and put it at the bottom of her box, promising herself she would not dwell on that again. She closed the lid and picked up the box and with determination and inspiration she went out to create something beautiful.

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Am I On The Right Track?

I ask myself, probably once a month: Am I on the right track?

Am I keeping first things first.  Is my compass still pointing due north?  Am I still on the right path? And even though the answer is “yes”, that little bit of nagging self doubt is holding me stationery.


Currently, I have felt that I am standing on a ledge ready to jump off and fly.  I have an excitement around the work I am doing. I feel that my success is just beyond my reach.  But, I still have a bit of doubt. Have I checked and triple checked my equipment? Do I have all the information I need? Do I know what to do after I take off?  What will I do if I fall?

I am on the precipice and need to jump to get to the next level.  But, honestly, I am still carrying a bit of fear.  I know I have to jump and as soon as I do, I won’t have time to think about the consequences.  I will be too busy.

So to quote Nike “Just do it.”

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Is There A Formula For Success?

The formula for success is as different as we are individuals. However, there are a few things that successful people do and do consistently.

First, exercise daily.  This helps keep stress down and keeps you physically strong.  Success is an uphill climb.  You will need everything you got to make this happen.

Next, get your day started early. This means waking up, maybe do your exercise, read and prepare for the day. Eat breakfast! You cannot run at top speeds without fuel.

Use a calendar.  Calendars organize our time.  I personally put all my work and personal appointments on one calendar.  This keeps me from over scheduling.  It  keeps my  focus on what is important to complete that day.

I have always been a person that reviews my schedule the night before to be sure I am where I am supposed to be on that first appointment of the day.  As a successful entrepreneur and mom, I need to be sure to be on time and where I am supposed to be.  Additionally, don’t forget to schedule for drive time.

Very Important: Include in your scheduling “me” time.  I find if it is not on the calendar, I won’t get it!

Lastly,  have an accountability person or team.  It should be that business profession that would hold you accountable.  I have found that since doing this, I make sure to get the stuff I hate to do, done.  I have also created some tools and strategies to make those tasks easier for me.  I still don’t like to do it but knowing that my accountability partner is going to ask, I will get it done.

These four tips will jump start your day with focus. Add determination – and you are on your way to success. For more information, please contact me: Email: kim@creating-a-buzz.com  Phone: (727) 919-1429

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Earning the Right to Hear Your Story

You know what I miss most in my life?  Intimacy.  Not sexual intimacy, but as Brené Brown writes, those people that have earned the right to “hear your story.”

creating a buzzThrough the last five years,  my life has been turned upside down.  Divorce from a husband of 12 years and my best friend for over 20 years have left me feeling isolated many days.  No one to talk to about the things that scare or trouble me and that heavy load of responsibility I am carrying.  I was left in a bubble to sort things out alone.

Additionally, the few friends that I have are currently having such a difficult time in their own life, that I hesitate to share my emotional neediness.

I know that in order to find those people that have earned the right to “hear your story,” it takes time and trust gained over time.

I always imagine that saying, “when one door closes, another will open.”  But unfortunately, I have realized those two things don’t happen simultaneously.  Sometimes the delay between these two occurrences can be painfully long.

In the meantime, I cannot isolate myself from others as I want to.  I need to force myself to schedule time to be with others to develop new friendships.  It has been so long, my skills are probably dusty, but here goes.

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Are You Teaching Kids How to Make Good Decisions?

creating a buzzOver the last few years, I have gotten frustrated by my kids not creating a sense of urgency about getting things done. Then at work, I have also noticed that many young people will procrastinate until the very end.

What created this?

Over-doing parents?

No buy in to the importance?

Not able to identify the pitfalls/consequences of waiting too long?

Or… All of the above?

I really think it is a combination of all the above.  I have heard parents say that they completed the college applications for their children, as it was too important to be left to them. Wow 😠 At what point do kids learn to prioritize and have consequences?  After they graduate from high school? At their first job? College?

I guess being a single parent with a business to run and a home to care for, I did not have a lot of time to check and double check or even do more than ask the question.  Ask the question once while cooking, driving, cleaning.

If they forgot their homework, I always had a twinge of guilt but could only ask how they could prevent that from happening in the future.  I asked them about the consequences of what they had done.  And finally, I tried to use stories of my life where I had procrastinated – or not – thought through the consequences to demonstrate the importance  – and as comfort to say, I know this is a tough lesson but all successful people have to learn this.

As painful as it was when they were young, I had to let my children experience the consequences of their behavior and decisions.  Many times they would cry about life not being fair.

But, as all adults know….. Fair in the game of life does not exist.

How have you taught kids to think through the consequences of their decisions?

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I have had an openly hate relationship with my mirror

They say that a mirror is the window of the soul. This cliche makes me  think of the Harry Potter movie, where Harry stares at the mirror seeing himself with this mother and father: the thing he desires most.

Kimberly Brust Recently, I had to face the fact that I have had an openly hate relationship with my mirror.  It seems like every time I looked in the mirror, I saw the third grade picture of myself: short, chubby, shag haircut.  Probably, one of my worst pictures, ever!  Of all the pictures ever taken, why would I see the ugliest one every time?  I have seen other pictures of myself and know that this picture is only one  of 1000’s and that I have plenty of pictures that look beautiful. It feels like watching a scary movie and after you watch the scene you can’ t “un-see” it.

This relationship with my mirror kept me feeling little, small and afraid.  Much like I did in third grade.  It affected my confidence in both my personal and business life.  It was the root of mPicture2any of my decisions.  Ultimately, I had to face that girl and put her in her place: my past!

Not who I am. Not holding me back. Not afraid. Not little. Not me. Simply an awkward phase that all children go through.

Now when I look at the mirror and my third grade self shows up, I simply replace her with the memory of a picture that reminds me of the woman I am now.

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Scarcity #2

In my last blog post, I wrote about scarcity.  I would just like to continue the discussion a bit further.

Do you tell yourself, “I’m not ___________ enough?”

We can fill in the blank with hundreds of words but ultimately the answer is probably just “I’m not enough.”

This type of long-term thinking starts to shake our confidence and our love of self.  This statement also is a comparison to others.  Fundamentally, we are never going to be good enough when we believe this type of negative self talk.

So let’s make a pact to stop it now!Kimberly Brust

I realized a few weeks ago that I was in a funk.  I am a list maker and love to check things off my list.  It gives me a sense of accomplishment. Unfortunately, over a couple of weeks nothing was getting completed and things were adding to the list.  That was the trigger…..

I was off and running. I had been giving myself a negative talking to everyday about all the things that were undone and my ability as a leader, mother, etc. to get them done.  I was just not good enough! Then one morning as I was sitting at my vanity I heard myself.

Well, let me tell you,  I gave myself a good talking to.  Right then, right there I said: Now just stop it.  (I sounded like my mother for a moment).  Who you are is not measured by a to do list. There can be unseen road blocks and actions of others to slow you down.   The important thing is to tell yourself you can do it.  Work on it day by day.  Rome wasn’t conquered in a day and you are not measured by your to do list.

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Scarcity

Recently, my mom has put together books on genealogy on her side of the family.

As I was reading, one word came to mind: scarcity.

Kim BrustThe word scarcity is normally used in terms of resources.  When you think of my family’s history, scarcity definitely describes life.

Briefly, my family came from the corner of Virginia, West Virginia and North Carolina.  They were farmers or worked in or around the coal mines.  Life was very hard. Many times food, clothes, electricity, and time were scarce.  Mothers worked in the home but the work was labor intensive and took so much time to complete.  I can only think there were so many times when they thought: no matter what I do, it is never enough and there is more tomorrow.

With this history of scarcity, it is not difficult to see how women got to the “just not enough” mentality.  In my opinion, instead of being “not enough time,” it has turned into “not good enough.”  I realize that this might seem like a big leap, but throughout the ages we have learned from what the previous generations have taught their children.  Life was filled with scarcity.

Life may have less scarcity of resources for many of us; however, we are still in the scarcity mentally.

Do you have enough?

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Get right with yourself.  Own your story. 

Kim BrustThroughout my life, I can remember times when I said, I feel like a have a mask on.  I am not being myself.  Fit in but stand out…. (WT Heck). Be the best but don’t ask for help … you don’t want to appear weak.  Toot your own horn occasionally but be modest and humble. Make money but don’t flaunt it.

Listen:  Here is my story: I am a high-achieving, type-A personality. I have struggled with perfectionism. I have made myself ragged by being too busy running. Refused to admit defeat and was ever the optimist.  I can’t stand to look at pictures of myself. I have always put myself last. I struggle with my worthiness for the gifts I receive.

But also listen: This is not my entire story.  I have raised goal-oriented, loving children. I have learned new skills to bring my business to a new generation of consumers.  I have stopped trying to fit in or stand out!  True wisdom comes from knowing when to quit.  I found that by putting myself first, my loved ones were happier too. I said ‘no’ to the good so I would be ready to say ‘yes’ to the great. I have learned to listen to myself.

The first 50 years were hard fought lessons that needed to be learned.  I am proud to wear the scars of being in the arena. Those scars remind me of where I have been and what I have learned. Facing what I hope to be another 50 years, I will remain in the arena fighting to discover my strength and learn the lessons life has for me.

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