Shared history. I have thought a lot about this over the last couple of years. We all have a sense of belonging when we have people that have known us for many years: Shared holidays, tribulations, milestones and loss. People that know the path we have walked, understand why we feel certain things with such conviction. Shared the history of our journey like no one else.
What happens when the connection to these people start to break and slip away? Like an ugly divorce – drives uninvolved people to opposite camps – our personal journey might drive people away from us as well. If we live long enough, death and illness can break the lines of shared history.
I have recently found myself detached from quite a few that have shared my history. For numerous reasons, many listed above….. That sense of belonging seems elusive to find. Who do you call just to talk things over with? Who will know what you are talking about without the whole story?
Basically, I am asking how to start this process all over again? It has been so long, I am not sure where/ how to start?
Creating a buzz…..
Is there a time when you finally have to say “UNCLE?”
I never thought so until recently. Giving up just felt like failure. This just was not part of my plan; ever! I had convinced myself that failure was a reflection of the hard work that I put into something. So I would doggedly continue down the same path, doing the same thing because I just could not admit defeat.
Then I heard something that made me think about failure or giving up or changing the direction of my journey in a totally different way. Specifically “Fail Forward.”
There are times when you are going to fail. Sometimes in spite of yourself, things just don’t go as you need. But if you fail forward and you can take something valuable away from the experience then you are still moving forward on your journey.
I heard this about the same time as “fail forward:”
So just keeping aiming and don’t be afraid of taking a step back.
Creating a buzz……
Ok, you realized that maybe plan A is not going to happen, or that you aren’t even sure that plan A was that good in the first place. The quote from Suzy really does put things in perspective.
After 2 divorces, ups and downs in business, and raising 3 children, I have made a lot of plans; all starting with a Plan A. Most of them did not turn out as planned. Specifically, I remember a trip to Paris, with my then husband, and 15 month daughter. I had paid for the trip, packed so organized. Toys, snacks, diapers, change of clothes in this bag to be carried on. All other items in checked bags. Passports in purse with tickets. Get to airport on time. Checking in at the Tampa airport, I give all the documents to the representative. SO EXCITED, FIRST TIME TO PARIS. Representative checks my husband and my daughter’s passport then finally mine. She say’s, ma’am, your passport is expired. I will not be able to book you to Paris. I can check you into Chicago though…. This can’t be happening to me. I knew my passport was fine. Called my travel agent, she said go to Chicago then go into town and renew your passport. When you are back at the airport, we will get you on the next flight. Needless to say, I should have just gone home… Nothing about the trip from there went as planned. We did get the passport, but then the luggage was lost, then the hotel did not have our reservation, diapers were lost and try finding Pampers in Paris-Not that easy.
I had planned this trip for months, thought that all the details were taken care of. However, as stressful as that was, we made the most of the trip. Finally found Pampers before diaper rash set in. Found a set of spare clothes and had the dirty set cleaned each day. Had picnics, saw all the sights and look back at that vacation with the fondest memories.
Now when I take a vacation, the only thing I plan is the where and when. I check the passports, including mine. I let fate and desire take me the rest of the way. Plan B usually works out just as well. It’s all in the perspective.
What is your Plan Bee? Do you even have one?
Creating a buzz……