“You are a disappointment.”
Just let that sink in.
Like many women my age, we have spent our lives trying to create a sense of a superwoman. Be high achieving, perfect mother, extraordinary and sexy wife/lover, a sensitive, caring friend, sister, daughter, president of the PTO or other charitable event and never, I mean never complain or look disheveled.
And of all those things, you fail at one. Which one?
It doesn’t matter!
All the wonderful things you do and have done have just been wiped away by this one failure. One aspect of your life where you have not experienced the success or happiness that you had hoped for.
What do you do? How do you respond to that negative talk, whether it comes from someone or in your own head?
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Even just saying the words leads us right down the path of judgement. It’s ok when it is someone else, but for goodness sake, don’t let that be me!
Zig Zigler said Fear has two meanings: “Forget everything and run or face everything and rise.”
The choice is yours……
If we change how we view the word failure, then the fear we associate with it will disappear.
First, failure is inevitable! When you are learning something new, you will have to try and try again. Wonder how many times you fell down when you were learning to walk?
Failure is not permanent unless you don’t try again. Keep trying until you are successful.
The most successful people have failed more times than they have experienced success.
The most important thing to remember when you fail is what you tell yourself after the attempt. Such as – what did you learn? – how can you improve the next attempt?
Finally, don’t let the judgement of others hold you back. They are judging you because they don’t have the courage to try themselves!
Let the word ‘failure’ symbolize just one more step on the journey to success.
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Life is filled with happiness and sadness, success and failure, ups and downs. If I looked at my life in fast forward, I would see how all the negative lead me to a more positive place. Myself, I am ever the optimist, but unfortunately there are people that want to remind me of my mistakes as if that is who I am – incapable of learning and moving forward.
I would like to be reminded of the positive things I have done then balance that with the negative choices I have made. I think if I put all that on a scale, I would still come out with a positive result. To live in a place simply reminding ourselves or allowing others to remind us of our mistakes over and over is unhealthy and damaging to our self esteem.
If I am able to recall why I made that choice in the beginning, I am sure that with the information I had, I felt like I was doing the right thing.
Sooooo, take it easy. Don’t beat yourself up about the past. Look forward; how can I make good choices? When I make a mistake, what do I tell myself? If I realize a failure, remember “Fail Forward.”
Only when we fail do we really learn something about ourselves. Change the way you look at “failure.” It might be the best opportunity yet.
Tell me about a time when you realized a failure was really an opportunity!
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Is there a time when you finally have to say “UNCLE?”
I never thought so until recently. Giving up just felt like failure. This just was not part of my plan; ever! I had convinced myself that failure was a reflection of the hard work that I put into something. So I would doggedly continue down the same path, doing the same thing because I just could not admit defeat.
Then I heard something that made me think about failure or giving up or changing the direction of my journey in a totally different way. Specifically “Fail Forward.”
There are times when you are going to fail. Sometimes in spite of yourself, things just don’t go as you need. But if you fail forward and you can take something valuable away from the experience then you are still moving forward on your journey.
I heard this about the same time as “fail forward:”
So just keeping aiming and don’t be afraid of taking a step back.
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