Is There A Formula For Success?

The formula for success is as different as we are individuals. However, there are a few things that successful people do and do consistently.

First, exercise daily.  This helps keep stress down and keeps you physically strong.  Success is an uphill climb.  You will need everything you got to make this happen.

Next, get your day started early. This means waking up, maybe do your exercise, read and prepare for the day. Eat breakfast! You cannot run at top speeds without fuel.

Use a calendar.  Calendars organize our time.  I personally put all my work and personal appointments on one calendar.  This keeps me from over scheduling.  It  keeps my  focus on what is important to complete that day.

I have always been a person that reviews my schedule the night before to be sure I am where I am supposed to be on that first appointment of the day.  As a successful entrepreneur and mom, I need to be sure to be on time and where I am supposed to be.  Additionally, don’t forget to schedule for drive time.

Very Important: Include in your scheduling “me” time.  I find if it is not on the calendar, I won’t get it!

Lastly,  have an accountability person or team.  It should be that business profession that would hold you accountable.  I have found that since doing this, I make sure to get the stuff I hate to do, done.  I have also created some tools and strategies to make those tasks easier for me.  I still don’t like to do it but knowing that my accountability partner is going to ask, I will get it done.

These four tips will jump start your day with focus. Add determination – and you are on your way to success. For more information, please contact me: Email: kim@creating-a-buzz.com  Phone: (727) 919-1429

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Are You Teaching Kids How to Make Good Decisions?

creating a buzzOver the last few years, I have gotten frustrated by my kids not creating a sense of urgency about getting things done. Then at work, I have also noticed that many young people will procrastinate until the very end.

What created this?

Over-doing parents?

No buy in to the importance?

Not able to identify the pitfalls/consequences of waiting too long?

Or… All of the above?

I really think it is a combination of all the above.  I have heard parents say that they completed the college applications for their children, as it was too important to be left to them. Wow 😠 At what point do kids learn to prioritize and have consequences?  After they graduate from high school? At their first job? College?

I guess being a single parent with a business to run and a home to care for, I did not have a lot of time to check and double check or even do more than ask the question.  Ask the question once while cooking, driving, cleaning.

If they forgot their homework, I always had a twinge of guilt but could only ask how they could prevent that from happening in the future.  I asked them about the consequences of what they had done.  And finally, I tried to use stories of my life where I had procrastinated – or not – thought through the consequences to demonstrate the importance  – and as comfort to say, I know this is a tough lesson but all successful people have to learn this.

As painful as it was when they were young, I had to let my children experience the consequences of their behavior and decisions.  Many times they would cry about life not being fair.

But, as all adults know….. Fair in the game of life does not exist.

How have you taught kids to think through the consequences of their decisions?

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There is no class to teach our children life skills

I have lived in Florida for my entire life.  I have heard about how the education process needs to change.  We went from math to new math, phonics to sight words and back to phonics again.  However, one thing has not changed.  There is no class to teach our children life skills.

teach children life skillsMy two sons and I were eating dinner one night.  I had just purchased a car for my daughter.  My youngest one asked, “How did you know about buying cars, mom?”  I let him know that it was a process of mistakes that I learned from.  “Well, how did you know how to get a mortgage?”  I said, “I bought my first house when I was 25 and asked questions.” They both agreed that these are things that need to be taught in school.

I was thinking about it.  How many times as an adult, do we feel that we have been taken advantage of at the car dealership?  Do we really understand all the papers you sign at a mortgage?  Believe me, you will have a book when you are done.

Young people don’t know how to reconcile their bank statements, write a check, or understand the cost of money.

As my job involves money and assets, I believe that giving my team an education in money and how it works will help them pay it forward.

Educating our young people about money, budgeting and finance is how they need to spend part of their school career.  Understanding this will help not only individual families but the financial future for everyone.

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Brené Brown is one of my favorite speakers/authors..

I am in the process of reading another book Brené Brown has written.

This book is titled Daring Greatly.  She has quoted Theodore Roosevelt’s Man in the Arena quote:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

When you are going where no one else has gone before you in your group or family – becoming an entrepreneur, creating art or music, or taking risk on an investment, look for feedback and encouragement from someone that is in that arena.

Loved ones, friends and family, might not be the best people to seek council or advise — as much as they might have your best interest at heart – but being in the arena requires taking risks, being courageous, following your heart and most people do not do this.  They live a safe life from the bleachers.

If you are going to live YOUR life, do so from inside the arena and pay no attention to those that might judge you from the sidelines.

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Sticks and Stones

Sticks and Stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you!

B— S—!!!!!

Words hurt a lot, especially when they come from someone you love.  They have a lasting effect and create open wounds that may never close.  There are people in your life that you assume you are safe to be vulnerable with.  But when those are the people that use that information as a weapon against you, the effect can be lasting; if you let it.

That is what this blog post is about.  How do we put those incidents into perspective with who we know we arKim Brust, Kimberly Bruste?

I struggle with this as well.  I am not sure that I have found the right way yet. But one thing I do when plagued with these thoughts is to remind myself of the good things people have said to me.  I also remind myself of the things I know to be true about me.  Finally, I reflect on the incident that may have led up to those words. Many times these incidents reflect a high stress and worry. People don’t always act their best at this time. Then FORGIVE!

I have developed a mantra to help me move through self doubt. I tell myself this as many times as it takes.

I also remember that words matter and choose my own words carefully!

How do you heal the wounds created by words?

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Energy Vampires…..

There has been a lot of talk about those toxic people that just exhaust you.  Many times these people are negative, over worry, gossip mongers and victims.

Energy Vampires InstagramI consider myself to be a very empathetic, kind person.  In my youth, I thought I could help everyone.  This attracted some of the most negative, drama-filled people to me.  I did not realize that I was the problem until around age 50.  That could be 1/2 of my life!  EEK!!!!!!

As I have said before, we are our own worst enemy.  To deal with these energy vampires, I have developed a few rules for myself.

You cannot help anyone unless they are already trying to help themselves.

  • Listen to your gut: if you are dreading talking or seeing someone, limit your exposure.
  • Start conversations out by asking something like: “Tell me something good that is going on with you since the last time we spoke.”
  • Allow a 30 second BMW session (Bitch, Moan and Whine) then redirect the conversation to a more upbeat conversation.
  • Ultimately, if none of these work, you might have to disconnect from this person.

I have started using these techniques and have found that some of those energy vampires have changed the way they interact with me.  I have even said out loud, “I need to surround myself with positive people”.  I have a lot to accomplish and can only do this in a positive state of mind.

My goals are lofty and my dreams are bigger.  To get there, I need every ounce of energy and positivity that I have within myself and can surround myself with.

How do you eliminate energy vampires?

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Why do certain words get a bad rap?

Recently, I asked why certain words get a bad wrap.  Another word I can think of is “WORK.”

One meaning of work is “the result of exertion, labor, or activity; a deed or performance.”  Sounds hard?!  Exertion. Labor.  But much of how we face the work we do is with our attitude.  Let’s be clear…nothing good happens without a great attitude. If you cannot change the work you do, change your attitude about it.

I have done the same job for 25 years and worked for the same company for 29. As the economy was crashing so was the revenue in my office.  Being in the people business was very difficult at that time.  All I could think of was that I needed a new job or needed to run away.  Option number 2 was not an option.  Option 1 did really seem like a good idea either.   That year, it was suggested that I read the Slight Edge by Jeff Olson.   It helped me realize that I needed to change.  I could not change the economy, corporate’s decisions and my clients attitude.  BUT, I could change mine.

Kimberly BrustI started by asking myself, “what could I do”?

*Look for the positive.

  • Learn some new skills that will help me grow my business.
  • Ask for help.

Did not happen over night. Everyday I had to tell myself the good stuff and sometimes many times a day. I also started a process of learning that I do every week.  Finally, I surround myself with people that are doing better than I am and ask them how they do it.

Have you had an epiphany that changed your attitude?

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Putting together a team in business

Putting together a team in business is probably one of the most difficult things a leader has to do.  Some people seem to do it naturally.  We can look at great coaches like Vince Lombardi and John Wooden and admire the way they are able to lead their team to victory over and over again.

Many of the same principles apply to business.  In order to develop a team, we first need to develop our own  leadership skills.  How do you do that? Most leaders have coaches that coach them.  These coaches are the people that help a leader identify where they need to grow, inspire them to try and hold them accountable.

business teamAs leaders, we often don’t want our team to see us as making a mistake, failing, or lost.  However, over the last 3 years I have experienced these and have had to say, I don’t know. I also had to make some incredibly difficult decisions that alone I probably would never have been able to do. Having support and guidance of my own coach pushed me to do what had to be done, even when it felt I could not.  Showing my vulnerability to the team and asking for their leadership help pull us all together.  As a result, I don’t have to do it alone! My team consists of the same players for the last 5 years, but we are all growing our leadership.

My team sees me as their leader. I have support from my coach and from my team; but most importantly, I have a business that is growing and getting back on top.  This time, however, I am not doing it alone.

Get a coach! Find someone that is doing it and ask if they could help you by taking over business with you. Get your team involved with strategy.  Look for leaders already in your team and develop them.

What are some tools you have used to create a better team?

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Why do our kids want to be entrepreneurs, when the rate of small business failures is so high?

I read an article that said our children are more and more interested in entrepreneurship.  I find this interesting, as most small businesses fail with in the first two years.  My daughter recently entered college and they are offering courses in entrepreneurship as well.

Entrepreneurship

However, I ask myself what this could include?

How to be accountable and to whom?

How to create conflict that will benefit the growth of the organization?

Do you have a mission/vision statement that will direct you?

Can you manage your resources?

Can you create strategy in an ever changing environment?

How do you communicate your vision/mission statement?

And so many more…..

I have a MBA and these things were never taught.  It has taken years of experience, outside courses and actually hiring a business coach to help me focus myself on what is important for the corporation.  I actually had to change the way I saw the business in order to make better decisions.

Specifically,  I had to realize that “I” was not the business.  There were so many other factors: economy, buying habits, product lines, opportunities created with technology, employees, legal and compliance issues.  I was the leader!

This was truly eye opening.  It assisted me in making difficult decisions when I knew it was for the good of corporation.

Over the next few weeks, I would like to share some of the awesome experiences and things I have learned.  My hope that is that all entrepreneurs will start to see things differently in order to be more successful.

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