Have you ever used the excuse, ‘waiting to get my ducks in a row’?

Have you ever used the excuse, ‘waiting to get my ducks in a row’?   Why are we always trying to do this?

I wondered where this saying might have come from, and there appears to be a couple of different ideas…but the one that seemed most logical to me was in regard to bowling.  Pins used to be shorter and resembled a duck, and therefore called ducks.  Before the bowler would throw the ball, he would make sure the ducks were in a row.  Sounds about right.

But bowling pins are objects and will stay where placed until the ball moves them.  How many of us struggle on a daily basis to get our ”ducks in a row”?

Today the meaning has changed to an idea of getting all the details managed and addressed before moving forward.  However,  ducks never stay in a row and life is often unpredictable. If we are constantly waiting for all life’s details to be managed and “in a row,” we will never achieve our dreams.

My mom always said there is no better time than today.  That applies to most things.  Start living today to create the life that you want.  Most of the details that we worry over aren’t really that important but more of road blocks we create:  After I lose weight…. When I get that promotion….. When I have more money……

Let’s not worry about getting all “our ducks in a row” but rather moving forward toward the life we envision for ourselves.

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Am I On The Right Track?

I ask myself, probably once a month: Am I on the right track?

Am I keeping first things first.  Is my compass still pointing due north?  Am I still on the right path? And even though the answer is “yes”, that little bit of nagging self doubt is holding me stationery.


Currently, I have felt that I am standing on a ledge ready to jump off and fly.  I have an excitement around the work I am doing. I feel that my success is just beyond my reach.  But, I still have a bit of doubt. Have I checked and triple checked my equipment? Do I have all the information I need? Do I know what to do after I take off?  What will I do if I fall?

I am on the precipice and need to jump to get to the next level.  But, honestly, I am still carrying a bit of fear.  I know I have to jump and as soon as I do, I won’t have time to think about the consequences.  I will be too busy.

So to quote Nike “Just do it.”

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Is There A Formula For Success?

The formula for success is as different as we are individuals. However, there are a few things that successful people do and do consistently.

First, exercise daily.  This helps keep stress down and keeps you physically strong.  Success is an uphill climb.  You will need everything you got to make this happen.

Next, get your day started early. This means waking up, maybe do your exercise, read and prepare for the day. Eat breakfast! You cannot run at top speeds without fuel.

Use a calendar.  Calendars organize our time.  I personally put all my work and personal appointments on one calendar.  This keeps me from over scheduling.  It  keeps my  focus on what is important to complete that day.

I have always been a person that reviews my schedule the night before to be sure I am where I am supposed to be on that first appointment of the day.  As a successful entrepreneur and mom, I need to be sure to be on time and where I am supposed to be.  Additionally, don’t forget to schedule for drive time.

Very Important: Include in your scheduling “me” time.  I find if it is not on the calendar, I won’t get it!

Lastly,  have an accountability person or team.  It should be that business profession that would hold you accountable.  I have found that since doing this, I make sure to get the stuff I hate to do, done.  I have also created some tools and strategies to make those tasks easier for me.  I still don’t like to do it but knowing that my accountability partner is going to ask, I will get it done.

These four tips will jump start your day with focus. Add determination – and you are on your way to success. For more information, please contact me: Email: kim@creating-a-buzz.com  Phone: (727) 919-1429

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As I reflect on Mother’s Day …

Kim BrustAs I reflect on Mother’s Day, I look at my meme and think about my own hive and the lessons that my mom taught me and I have taught my children. Without fail, those lessons are the things that I did – without even thinking about it. I would have to believe it was true of my mother and all mothers, to some degree.

Certainly, we talk to our children about life and what is important, but some things can only be taught over life experiences.  Things like resilience, integrity, how to think about failure.

As a child, my mother taught me that nothing is free.  If you want it, you will need to work for it. Work harder than expected, give more than you earn and do it with a positive, can-do attitude. Thank you, Mom!  I got it! Mother's Day

She showed me that family is first and may require sacrifices. Birthdays are special. Christmas has magic. Showing up everyday is important. Time spent with loved ones in conversation keeps you connected.

Thank you, Mom!  I got it!

Kim BrustFinally, in Jeff Olson’s book  ‘The Slight Edge’ he put my mom’s actions into a mantra: small steps taken consistently over a long period of time with faith and burning desire You will achieve your goals.  I say this every opportunity I can to my children.  And as each of them have their own individualized struggles, I know that they have seen that mantra work and they will live their life the same way.

Thanks, Mom! Lesson Learned!

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Your journey to finding your passions – Part 2

Your journey to finding your passions started with your strengths, personality and stories.  Step 2 will require quiet contemplation and, perhaps, require a little visual stimulation.

Kimberly BrustI used Pinterest.  I searched core values.  There were many pins that had lists of core values.  These are the words that describe those things you hold to be the most important things in your life.  Normally, people will have 4 or 5 of these that are really more important than anything else.  You will see these in the stories you wrote down in step one.

One of the pins I looked at had 450 values.  I went through and wrote down the words that resonated with me.  Then, I weened the list down until I had a true idea of my core values.

The pattern of my stories reflected my core values.  My one example for me was education.  I remember I had my daughter March of 1996 and in August of 1996 I started my MBA. I was so excited to be learning new STUFF.  Excited to meet smart, innovative, creative business people looking to expand their horizons.  I knew when I saw the word ‘education,’ that was a core value.

From that point on, I began trying to learn all kinds of new things. I also began a program at work to reward people that were getting additional education and help with some of their expenses. The incredible thing was, I was waking up excited, could not wait for the next day, constantly reading and listening to things I had an interest in.  My team members also felt the excitement and started learning new things.  All 8 of my team members are expanding their horizons with college courses and/or professional certifications.

Find your core values.  As we move forward in discovering your passion, you will need these.

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What does it take to find your passion?

Maybe you had it and you lost it. Maybe you never had it. How do you know when you are doing it?

What is your passionThese are questions that have been driving me the last four years.  What is my passion? How do I find it?  Where do I start?

In this post, I want to get you started.

First step, do some self discovery.  I used a couple of tools to find my strengths and gifts again.  Specifically, a Myers Briggs survey, Strengthfinders 2.0, and reviewing my past history.  The first two are pretty straight forward, but the last one takes some time to create a story.  What I found most helpful is looking at the times in my life when I could not wait to start. Felt excited or energized about what was happening.  I wrote these events down in my journal.  I tried to reflect on how I was feeling, what I liked about what was happening.  This took time. Once I had a few stories written down, I started to look for patterns and similarities.  Then I wrote those down.  This was the beginning of finding my passion.

If you are looking for yours, start with the above steps to begin the journey.

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Baby Boomers and Getting Married

Kim BrustAccording to many studies, more and more baby boomers are becoming single and not wanting to get married.  This presents some questions that should be considered:

  • What happens if I get sick and can no longer work?
  • How will I afford retirement?
  • Do I have a plan for my funeral and final expenses?
  • Have I told anyone?
  • Who will I ask for help?

All these questions and more based on your personal situation.

Whether we are male or female, whether we took care of the finances, we need to have a plan and let the people we will rely on know it.  Too many times things take us by surprise and the decisions we make under stress are not as thought out as they should be.

If you are single, especially over 50, get a plan, share it with your loved ones right away.  Don’t let the wrong person decide for you.

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Learning who you are now

I know have written previous posts about learning who you are now….. but I thought it was time for an update.

On my journey to discover what I like and what I want to do with my free time has begun to get clearer for me.  In my 20’s is when I was in the me, me, me time.  I have reflected on that time to get a base line of what I enjoyed back then.

Kim Brust, Kimberly BrustConcerts, travel, singing and anything on the water was where I felt most joyful.  But, also, doing these things with people I enjoyed made it so much more special.  Money is always an issue, but I have had a great time going to concerts and performances, finding bargains for travel and have even had an opportunity to sing with my son’s band.  Still hoping to get a boat someday…but with kids in college, that one might take awhile.  In the meantime, finding my joy has been exciting and a bit scary at times.

The next hurdle will be starting to do things by myself……

The journey continues.

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How to find happiness in a chaotic world…

Kim Brust, Kimberly BrustI have always been a person that has a list of things to do each day. Buzzing here and there. Don’t get me wrong, crossing things off my list of things to do gives me a sense of accomplishment.  Many of my friends comment, “How do you get so much done in a day…?”  Scheduling and a reliable car!

Recently however, I was told by my coach that I needed to take time for myself.  What? I don’t have time: three kids, business, home, volunteer work, blogs to write, family …. he insisted that I incorporate time for myself into my life on a regular basis.

What I discovered was that this was like putting sugar in a pie.  Without sugar my pie was not so sweet.  Surely the fruit and the crust are good but the flavor was not what you expected.  Time with yourself allows you to add the sugar to your pie!

It is that time you get in touch with who you are, what you are passionate about and ultimately to consider your journey.

Things that won’t happen when you take time for yourself:

*kids won’t suffer –  just the opposite

*you will feel guilty – you will at first but stay the course!

*no one will think you are selfish – they will see you as an example

Things that will happen:

*your significant other will look forward to being with the new you and you will enjoy that more as well.

*you will have time to develop your passion and your dreams

*you will be more engaged in your life

*happy mom = happy kids/significant other!

*more productive at work

*greater life satisfaction

*your stress level will go down for longer periods of time – as if your mind knows it is coming

This is your daily/weekly vitamin.  Taken at regular intervals will add to your overall well being.

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Bravery

kim brust, kimberly brust, braveryBravery conjures  images of a warrior facing the foe – looking it directly in the eye and having the ability to push the fear aside to face victory or defeat.

I would have described myself as brave for the first 49 years of my life.  Looking at each battleground as just an obstacle to overcome.  My sword was optimism and shield was dogged persistency to learn all I could about my foe.   Whether it was the autism my daughter suffered or the juvenile rheumatoid arthritis my son had, they would not beat me down. To this end I was victorious.

However, at 50 I started to realize that I did not breathe: I felt strangled by the life that was mine.  I was smart, mildly successful in my business, and had done things that I was proud of  but, if asked, could not tell you what I wanted the next 1/2 of my life to be. I could not tell you what I enjoyed, did not have a hobby or a goal to achieve.

What did others think of me?  What did others see in me that maybe I just could not uncover?  For so many reasons, self esteem, fear (and a lot of it), always putting myself last.  Finally, feeling that I had to get to know myself; really take a look at who I am, I began a new journey.

I was so afraid of confrontation, being judged and told I was being ridiculous. The day of this realization, I went to bed for 24 hours trying to deny it.  Eventually, I realized that this was truth; it was who I was.  When I got up out of that bed, I could be a new person, have a fresh start…. I had seen my weaknesses and was determined not to be ruled by these fears again.

I needed courage and bravery to push me through the uncomfortable days ahead.  When judgement was facing me in the mirror, I had to look her in the eye and tell her I was worthy and owed myself the gift of being authentically me.

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