What do we fear? Many times it is just the unknown… Will they like me? Will I be able to complete the project on time? Will I be good enough? Will I be able to compete?
Over the last 15 years, I have learned a lot about anxiety and fear. My daughter suffers with anxiety daily. In order to look at what is happening and deal with it, we were told to make a coping statement when faced with an attack. I asked my daughter to tell me how many times she was worried about something and then that actually happened. We really had to think about this for a while.
WE COULD NOT THINK OF ONE TIME!
I advised her, that most times we worry about the worst case scenario and that hardly ever happens. Much like the warnings on a drug label. The chances of the worst case might be 1 in a million…. Normally, we get something in between the best and worst outcome. So, if we know that the worst case is most likely not going to happen and we can deal with any of the other outcomes, we should just move forward and let our fear move back.
The more times we are able to push our fear back, the more confident we become. It is not that the fear is not there, we just don’t let it stop us from moving forward. The more we practice this, the easier it gets.
I have living proof.
Creating a buzz….
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