There has been a lot of talk about those toxic people that just exhaust you. Many times these people are negative, over worry, gossip mongers and victims.
I consider myself to be a very empathetic, kind person. In my youth, I thought I could help everyone. This attracted some of the most negative, drama-filled people to me. I did not realize that I was the problem until around age 50. That could be 1/2 of my life! EEK!!!!!!
As I have said before, we are our own worst enemy. To deal with these energy vampires, I have developed a few rules for myself.
You cannot help anyone unless they are already trying to help themselves.
- Listen to your gut: if you are dreading talking or seeing someone, limit your exposure.
- Start conversations out by asking something like: “Tell me something good that is going on with you since the last time we spoke.”
- Allow a 30 second BMW session (Bitch, Moan and Whine) then redirect the conversation to a more upbeat conversation.
- Ultimately, if none of these work, you might have to disconnect from this person.
I have started using these techniques and have found that some of those energy vampires have changed the way they interact with me. I have even said out loud, “I need to surround myself with positive people”. I have a lot to accomplish and can only do this in a positive state of mind.
My goals are lofty and my dreams are bigger. To get there, I need every ounce of energy and positivity that I have within myself and can surround myself with.
How do you eliminate energy vampires?
Creating a buzz…….
