Are you confident enough to ‘bee’ you?
Have you ever noticed how you walk into a room of strangers? Do you try to make yourself as small and unnoticeable as possible? Do you dress in black or a blah color so you don’t stand out?
What about when you are going to a party with friends? Do you dress differently? Do you walk in the place like you own it?
I really let my physical self show how confident I was. Which wasn’t very confident at all. I did everything I could to blend in. Then one day, I was at a leadership training class. I heard someone say, “Fake it until you Make it.” That really resonated with me. I realized at that moment, if I wanted people to see me in a different way, I would have to fake it until it was me.
I wanted people to see me as confident, outgoing, happy and full of life. Not that person I had been: fearful, sad and anonymous. So, I went about convincing myself first. Just like an actress, I dressed the part. I wore the things that made me feel good and look good. Then I got out my smile. I used it all day, everyday. I used every resource I could to increase my confidence, such as reaching out to a support person when in doubt, reading every book I could to improve those things that needed attention and made sure I wasn’t telling myself negative statements.
I have even had people say to me, you look different. It is not the hair, makeup, clothes. It is the confidence!
Over the last two years, my confidence has grown. I am no longer faking it…this is who I am.
Creating a buzz…are you confident enough to ‘bee’ you?
